Tuesday, January 31, 2012

I Want to be a Boy Mom - End. Of. Story.

When I was pregnant with J, I just knew we were having a girl. Every fiber of my being was screaming girl!

When you're pregnant, whether it be for the first time or the third time, knowing every little detail becomes so important. Things that never crossed your mind before are all you think about. Or, at least, that was the case for me.

Was I carrying high or low? Could you tell from behind I was pregnant? What did my routine morning {all day} sickness mean? What did the Chinese calendar say? What did my intuition say? What did everyone else say?

At 17 weeks, the answer to all of those questions pointed straight to a girl.

But then at 18 weeks a room full of six nurses told me we'd be expecting a baby boy. I made those poor nurses stand there and stare at his little weenie just to be sure. And, well, as we all know, they were right.

I can't lie, I was disappointed. As I laid there, my tummy covered in goo, I wondered how my motherly intuition could've been so wrong. How had it failed me already?! Meanwhile, the hubs was doing a celebratory lap around the hospital {not literally, but you know}.

As women, I think it's something we have to come to terms with, being a boy mom. Most of us don't grow up thinking, oh I can't wait to be in a house full of boys! Umm, no, quite the opposite actually! We run around dreaming of finding the biggest bows and frilliest dresses for our little girls. We dream of prom, sorority rush and wedding planning.

Now that I'm 10 months into this mommy gig I can say I absolutely love being a boy mom. I'm not the first to make this proclamation, no, many of you have also come to this realization. I think its just a right of passage.

Several weeks ago, one of J's daycare teachers commented that he is "all boy." Her comment kind of caught me off guard, what exactly did she mean by that? Well, since then, I've paid close attention to J's mannerisms. And you know what I've seen? That she was spot on. My little boy is just that, all boy.

Among many, many things that are wonderful about having a boy, like not having to have the cutest matching ensemble each day, J has a certain essence about him. He exudes a sprit of adventure {hence a reason for our birthday theme}.

As I read all of your blogs chronicling recent pregnancies and new ventures into motherhood, I can't help but think about our {maybe} Baby #2.

Before meeting J and becoming a mom, I thought that we'd try for #2 and if all went right it'd be a girl. One boy, one girl. Perfect, no?

Now, when I think about our {maybe} Baby #2 I see a little boy. I see J running around showing his little brother how to fit into spaces far too tiny to crawl through, the way teasing the dogs can be endless hours of entertainment, that if you throw food the dogs will catch it, and that if you get a little dirty mom will roll her eyes and give you a big ole smile.

The days go by and the more I dream about completing our family I see Baby #2 in our future.

However, the dreams I had of sorority initiation and tea parties are fading into baseball games, boy scouts and messy excursions. And that is quite alright with me.

16 comments:

  1. haha makes me laugh that you thought he was a girl. if i don't have a boy (all boys) my life will be ruined. i heard someone was having a girl the other day and i almost told them 'i'm sorry' but realized that probably wasn't appropriate. freshman roommate (you know) and i have a deal that if she has a boy and i have a girl, we will switch. bet you didn't know that.

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  2. I agree Momma! I love these little fellas! I would have no problem with a houseful and being known as the basketball team!

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  3. Awww, I love this! Baby J is just so cute and I bet he would be an amazing big brother no matter what gender {maybe} baby #2 will be. lol

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  4. I love your post! I have 3 boys and I have to say BROTHERS is such an awesome thing to watch. I only had a brother, not a sister so I had no experience with a same-gender siblings. There is just something so special about it.

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  5. I love being a boy mom too! I would be totally happy having a house full of boys even though I'm a girly-girl myself. Not that I'd mind having a girl, of course, I'd enjoy that too. I might just have to get a part-time job in order to pay for all the "accessories" that come along with a little girl ;)

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  6. I think being a boy mom saves me money! I don't have to buy cute bows or bloomers that I know I would think I have to have. But with a boy, you don't have to worry about that...and plus boys are always momma's boys! I am hoping when we have a second that it's a boy too...so Nolan can have a little playmate to play trucks and trains with!

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  7. I love being a boy mom! But I will say I do hope to have a daughter one day. I am so close with my mom, that it does hurt my heart to think of possibly not having that same experience with a daughter of my own. And then I hear my little boy say "Momma" and see my husband call his Mom and tell her he loves her, and well I think being a mom is just perfect. Either way. Son or daughter. Two of the same. One of each. You can't go wrong. :)

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  8. Right there with you! I love having a son and being a boy mom. I love everything that comes with it: the bumps and tumbles and wildness and sports! I do hope to have a girl at some point, but I'd rather have more boys than girls. They're just easier. No drama, no frilly stuff - I am so okay with it for now :)

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  9. I have a 7 month old boy and he was the first boy ever in our family -- we're all girls, we all have girl cousins, etc. My mom was, for that reason, SURE he was a girl but I knew from the moment I conceived that he was a BOY. Maybe it was because I felt up for the challenge, haha. Sure enough, he was a he! I have to say, being a boy mom is AWESOME. I don't have a preference for any future children but I sure wouldn't mind being in a house full of BOYS!

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  10. I love being a boy mom! In fact, being a girl mom scares me haha. Dream world: 3 boys, 1 girl (I've gotta have a wedding to plan and such right?).

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  11. I also LOVE being a boy momma!!!! They are so much fun!!!! I am not sad one bit that baby #3 is a boy! I always thought I wanted girls but I cannot imagine it any other way!! Great post mama!

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  12. Love this post! I love when people say Chase is all boy! I was convinced he was a girl before the ultrasound too. Our story was a little different in that my husband wasn't there for the ultrasound so the nurse printed a picture of his little wee wee and wrote it's a boy. So no one but the nurse saw it in an ultrasound before he was born. We believed her but my mom and I both had that little doubt and were glad he was a boy when he was born.

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  13. I was the same way -- convinced Evie was a boy and dreaming of mud pies and worms and messy excursions. I was kinda sad when the nurse said girl, but now I wouldn't want it any other way and I really want another girl for our {maybe} baby #2. Plus she can play in the mud and get messy!

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  14. I think I have the best of both worlds - Kate is my pretty little princess, for sure...but she is also wilder and more adventurous than my nephew ever was! I always thought I wanted boys and girls, but I have to say I'm kinda feeling the same way: I LOVE BEING A GIRL MOM!

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