A New Year's Goal to Make Loved Ones Feel Special

The start of a new year is often filled with fresh ideas and things to think about. Though I'm not a big “resolution” kinda girl, I do find myself reflecting on the past year and trying to determine some of my shortcomings. There are always things that I feel like I can do better and some that I feel like I just want to change all together. 2012 was a wonderful year for our family. It was H’s first full year, we saw him sit up, crawl, and start to walk. He started babbling and laughing - nothing better than that! C started Kindergarten and learned to read and write. G learned how to write his name, went into his last year of preschool, and has been just about the best big brother anyone could ask for. Needless to say, it has been a busy year.

Since busy was the name of the game, there were things that seemed to fall a bit short of expectations for sure. The biggest one that affected me was forgetting about or not giving as much attention as I would like to those “special days” for some of the important people in my life. We have tons of wonderful family members and some fantastic friends that I always want to make sure that they know just how much they mean to me. I myself am not a huge birthday person. I honestly feel like my birthday is just another day. My mom always begs to differ though, and every year informs me that my birthday is a day that is just as special to her as it should be to me and gets annoyed when I belittle it. When I think about it like that, I suppose I agree. When C, G, and H’s birthdays comes around, I think about them differently than I used to think about birthdays. I see the day as a time to reflect back on their life and how it all began. I use it as an opportunity to make them feel over-the-top special for the day. While I want them to feel loved and special every single day of the year, it is nice for them to have one day that is truly their own. Birthdays, anniversaries, graduations, weddings, and births of children are BIG days. They are the ones that need to be celebrated and never overlooked. It is easy as a mom, dad, or really any adult to have these special days just blend in with the other 364. I am guilty of blending them in as well. It is always the first thing to skip over when life gets busy. I want to focus this year on those significant days for the ones that I hold near and dear to my heart. Instead of procrastinating and just running out at the last minute to buy something for a birthday or anniversary, this year, I am going to reflect on that person and come up with something that would really mean a lot to them. I want to make sure that I use these days as a cue to let these wonderful people feel and know how much they mean to me and that they are an important part of my life. Now, I am not saying that there always needs to be a gift. There is nothing that I love more than a nice handwritten card or a well thought out handmade gift. So, my goals:
  • Make a list of all of those "special dates" - I just ordered my new “life planner” for the year and am so excited about the first few pages. It is a month-by-month place to put birthdays and anniversaries throughout the year. I am hoping that this will help me stay organized and help me to plan out my special gifts.
  • Take some time to talk (not Facebook) with my friends and family about their hopes for the coming year and their real joys in life.
  • Make some handmade cards for special occasions - I used to do this, but got off track a couple years ago.
  • Start planning a few weeks ahead for a special day, write out the card, get it ready to send, get a gift if appropriate.
  • Tell the people in my life what they mean to me...don't assume they already know.
My hope is that next year at this time, I can feel like these special people in my life took a front seat and were my priority. They have always meant a lot to me and I have always known it, but it is important for others to know that as well.

Lauryn writes at The Vintage Mom. She is a mom of three vivacious children and wife to one extremely vivacious husband! Lover of knitting, running (although mostly after little ones right now), the color orange, fun accessories, fall, tea, and a clean kitchen floor. She spends her days in awe of her family and trying to teach her three to treat others as they would want to be treated.