Mothering a Toddler: A Desperate Call for Mom Advice

I look back at the bigger picture of this blog from the last year and I see lots of good. Lots of recipes, memories of travel and of friends and family. Though, the one thing this blog has lacked over the last year in comparison to the years prior are post upon post of updates on Jackson.

In case you’re wondering, Jackson will turn three next month and I still use "Baby J" as his label for posts here on this blog. My friends, my dear loyal readers, this year of parenting has been a true test for me and Brandon as individuals, as Jackson’s parents and as spouses.

Every morning is a marathon of tantrums and tears to get Jackson dressed and off to school. The nights are filled with more tantrums and tears as we get him ready for bed. He dropped weekend naps a good eight months ago. As for night sleeping? He’s weaseled his way into our bed for the last three months. Somehow, we’ve become co-sleepers and I’d do just about anything to regain control of his sleeping habits.

We’re a shell of the people we once were by the time we’ve tricked Jackson into going to bed and collapse on the couch. There are no words or thoughts that I’ve been able to pull from my spirit by the time 9:00 p.m. rolls around to document on this blog. Even more so, I feel as though if I’d come to the keyboard each stroke of the keys would be filled with negativity in respect to Jackson’s current "stage."

All of these tantrums, sleep regression and absolute stubborness have presented challenges that I fully expected but am unaware of how to handle. No article, blog, or parental suggestion has been helpful in calming those terrible-two tendencies and pulling out the sweet, loving kid who’s still buried under all of these emotions.

As everyone warns me three is worse than two, I’m on edge about the balance within our home with his impending third birthday. While the details above may read as your typical two-year-old, Jackson is anything but that.

He’s what most people describe to me as one of those toddlers. I think they're typically called strong-willed. Yep, that’s what we’re working with. I was one. Brandon was one. And so, of course, we’ve been gifted with one of those strong-willed toddlers as well. You know, the ones who go above and beyond in exemplifying every terrible-two characteristic, who need no sleep, who are smarter than you can imagine and have the energy of a banshee.

This is where you come in. I need help, obviously. As said before, I’ve scoured the blogs and parenting sites full of discipline and sleep articles. I’m looking for in-depth tips on how to cultivate happiness, obedience and SLEEP in your toddler’s life.

Please, please, please, leave book suggestions, parenting theories or sites that have in-depth discussions of discipline and/or sleep habits of 2-3 year olds. Although I feel like we’ve tried everything, I know the answer is out there and I’m hoping one of you can point me in the right direction.

If you've survived or surviving mothering one of these toddlers, I’d so appreciate any insight. If you’re parenting a toddler who’s maintained their sleep habits and exhibit minimum tantrums, please share your routines or discipline ideals in the comments section as well. Or, you can give me a shout on Twitter here, my handle is @TheViewFrom510 - yes I'm serious about needing help!

I know my sweet, respectful kid is still in there. In fact, he still shines through every so often, but the terrible-two-year-old and the onset of the three-nager are already winning out. 

Please, friends, help!