Monday, July 7, 2014

30 is not the new 20. Hear me out.

30 is not the new 20, she said, quickly catching my attention. Hardly, I thought. 30 is most definitely the new 20. This girl was obviously misinformed. Then she said again - 30 is not the new 20

At this point, my near 27-year-old self was just about to jump out of my seat. She couldn't be right? Right?! I mean, I can't pin point the exact date, but I'm fairly certain that 30 has been the new 20 for several years. 

She had my attention. 

Meg Jay, clinical psychologist, is preaching otherwise about our theory on good ole 30-year-olds, and I was having an internal clash of emotions just on the title of her TED talk. But while viewing this 14-minute video, it clicked - she's right! You must watch this, whether you're a 20 something or 30 something. Hear me - and Meg - out on this. 



Meg informs us that claiming your 20's is one of the simplest yet most transformative things you can do for your work, love for your overall happiness. To top it off she rattles off research to back this up. 

The theory of 30 is the new 20 allows us to justify all of our "I'll do that tomorrow," "When we have more money," "I'm just looking for Mr. Right Now," "Babies can wait," even, "Careers can wait." This idea that because 30 is the new 20 we can brush off the richness of responsibility that comes along with this decade, or any decade, of our lives is a troublesome message we feed ourselves. And really, we're only creating static within our own lives by not living on purpose!

Yes, things happen later in life - babies, work, marriage, but why let these days go fleeting by without true purpose? As Meg says this is our developmental sweet spot! Y'all, let's dig into this sweet spot!


Our timeline as modern women has expanded, there's no doubt. The thing of it is, no matter what age you are, if you're not living with intention, mission and love you're trivializing the purpose He's provided in your story.

Tips to Make the Most of Your Years (20-something or not):

Get identity capital: Do something that adds value to who you are, and is an investment to who you want to be. 

Take advantage of your weak ties: As Meg says, half of new jobs are not posted. You're not going to find that job online, not even in the 21st century. It's still about getting yourself out there with face-to-face networking. 

The time to start picking your family is now: This pertains to your partner, your choice of friends and loved ones. You should be as intentional with love as you are with work. Amen.

30 is not the new 20.
Claim your adulthood, get some identity capital, use your weak ties, pick your family.  
Don't be defined by what you didn't know or didn't do, you're deciding your life right now.
-Meg Jay



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